We all have emotions; humans, animals, everyone. But the ability to prove our own emotions and of others encircling us ,termed as emotional intelligence. We use this emotional intelligence to accommodate to the transformations occurring in this fast-growing environment as well as to acquire one’s own goal. The word ‘Emotional Intelligence’ was first introduced in 1964, although the justification of the term came into favor in 1995 through the book Emotional Intelligence written by science journalist Daniel Goleman.
Now Emotional Intelligence has five components:-
To be aware of one’s personality or individuality , termed as self-awareness. We all tend to be aware of our surrounding environment but when it comes to being aware of our desires, feelings and even our motivations,self-awareness comes as an explanation.1- Self-awareness is how we see our desires, how we limit our ambition, like being ambitious is a good thing, it’s a good sign to be successful but to be over-ambitious is fatal; both for our self as well as for others.
2- It’s the tendency of knowing one’s weaknesses, strengths, trigging points and reaction to the bad and good getting overthrew on us.
3- Being aware of the fact about other peoples’ opinion on us, how we put our opinion on them, being a high-key profile or low key profile person to the achievements we attained.
Self-awareness is a vast informative topic to read and a ability that can be improved, subjecting to one’s own willingness to get it improved.
The more self-aware we are, the more improved our emotional intelligence is.
2- Self Regulation:-
We can be self-aware of our surrounding, but how we respond that awareness is called self-regulation. To be social; tolerant, flexible, permeable and functional is called self-regulation. We all want to be successful, maybe we have already built up our strategies but what’s the use when-a- We have no regulation on our emotions.
b- We are non-functional to our goals.
c- We are non-permeable to everyone’s negativity as well as excessive positivity.
d- We are non-flexible to the changes we need for accomplishment of our goal.
To be self-aware is a good thing, but, being self-regulator to our emotions is like getting a ‘boon over a boon.’
3- Internal Motivation:-
It’s not always necessary to do the work for rewards, sometimes; we must do the works for our learning (ok, this is also a kind of reward). We all have feelings; pleasure, irritation, distress; learning to control them, developing habits to control them stands as Internal Motivation.
4- External Motivation –
Developing habits to get adapt to other people’s’ the behavior for the sake of power, money or under intimidation. For example:- A students when behaving well in front of the teachers get good grades as compared to the one who shows a rebellious behavior, likewise, the relationship between an employee and boss for a promotion, pay-raise depends on how the first one adapts to the changes demanded by him.
5- Social skills
Lastly, we have the social skills to talk about. It’s a common interaction, where social rules, social behaviors meant to be created for both verbal and non-verbal purpose. The process of learning these rules is called socializing, and the skills are called social skills.One who develops social skills to express himself/herself in society sets out its last steps towards the goal set for progress.
Lastly, I can say that just with a higher IQ, reaching our life’s goal will be a desolated journey, but when we partner with higher EI, the journey will populous with long-lasting validity.